I knew it was going to happen. I mean…. how many times have I told other bloggers, “Ignore them! They are trash!” “They suck the life out of you.”
It was only a matter of time. Those words are easy to say. It is easy to comfort someone who has been smacked by a hurtful phrase or comment.
It is hard to hear. Even though the words keep playing in my head, “Let it go. They are trolls. You know trolls suck.” … I can still see that hurtful comment.
Dear Troll,
You suck. The end. If people want to know what words brought me to tears – here they are. In mini size because that is about all I think of you. Mini size. Also – to future trolls – I will not acknowledge your presence again. I will just delete and smile and post something that says L.I.F.E.
So how about this:
We Love Life here. The twins went roller-skating tonight. It was awesome:
Addison wasn’t totally sure she wanted to skate at first. Of course – Andrew was right out there.
It didn’t take long for Andrew to decide he needed to do tricks like the “big” kids.
And just like that – Addison wants to do the tricks too. “Here Addison – let me show you.” L.O.V.E.
And… Just in case you are still wondering how “happy” we are. Here is a video shot last week. Still Laughing.
So… Officially – I hate trolls. I have always disliked them – but from afar. When they attack my son, my “Momma Bear” instincts come raring out. I want to hunt down the troll. I want to scream in rage that someone would write something – so hideous. So hurtful. To a baby.
But, those feelings would rot my soul. So, I will turn that negative comment… that troll into some positives.
1. An excuse to show off my happy kids.
2. And excuse to show off my beautiful kids.
3. An excuse to show everyone how happy my heart is.
4. We must have hit the big time.
**Future trolls… No attention will come to you on this blog. FYI. Just a simple delete. **
Thanks Shell….
I am a former teacher, turned SAHM. I have 3 children. The twins, Andrew and Addison, turned 3 years old in October. I also have a 1 year old baby who was born with a very rare chromosomal disorder - Wolf Hirschhorn Syndrome. The good, the bad, the ugly.. all here. Because this blog keeps me from drinking.
It is hard to not get upset. But it just a troll. And they really need to get a life if all they do is troll through the internet all day writing stupid stuff in random places.
Love the photos of your gorgeous kids xo
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Someday – Anna – we are going to meet in real life. So – save your pennies and I will save mine. Whoever hits first has to fly to the other continent. xo
((((hugs))))
The big time does rather suck.
People are idiots. People do stupid, idiotic, hateful things. People do those things for shits and giggles, and that’s the worst kind.
Don’t let them steal your happiness. It’s far too valuable to waste on little creatures with gems in their bellybuttons and flaming green hair. (Also… it makes it far more entertaining to actually envision them as the wee little troll dolls.)
Ok. So.. now I’m picturing him as one of those troll dolls and this makes me so happy.
It makes dealing with trolls SO much more entertaining!
People are C-R-A-Z-Y. And the only reason someone would say something like that is to get a reaction, so as hard as it is…yes, you just have to ignore them. Someone once commented on one of my posts and told me that my son was going to grow up to be a serial killer for having such a bitch for a mother. Again…people are CRAZY.
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WHAT?!?!? I just don’t understand why people attack the kids. Attack me all you want. Seriously – I can take it. Ugh. But my kids….
Wow… the level of ignorance and cruelty is astounding. Make good use of your delete button.
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Tara – I love your blog. I love reading your perspective on life. And just like this comment… it is always perfect
I am so proud of you for turning your troll into LIFE!
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Thanks Annie – and seriously… I’m going to have to start groceries on a shoestring now that I’m SAHM.
Woo hoo, good for you! It will just eat at you. You don’t want to become as hateful as they are. Now that doesn’t mean you can’t imagine giving that person a punch right in the throat.
But you have beautiful children that are happy and flourishing.
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Oh – I imagined it. You know that picture that is circulating the internet? about how everyone needs a high five every once in awhile? – in the face with a chair.
that is what I pictured 
I missed the comment that prompted this post, but I’m sorry you got attacked by a troll. They really are miserable people whose only purpose is to incite controversy. Sadly, they’re not always anonymous, either – I just unfriended someone on Facebook yesterday for essentially being a troll. It had gotten to the point that, for every item I posted that wasn’t pure fluff, he would weigh in with a differing perspective – just to stir the pot. And he never did so in a thoughtful, productive way; no, he was antagonistic right from the start. Yet when I would lose my cool and fight back, he’d suddenly backpedal and play the, “I’m just offering a different viewpoint, YOU’RE the one getting upset,” line. I always tried to play it cool and not let him get to me, but I lost my tempter yesterday. And after a particularly heated back-and-forth on my otherwise drama-free FB page that left me feeling utterly ridiculous, it dawned on me: Just because you know someone “IRL,” doesn’t necessarily make them any less of a troll.
And then I unfriended him. Because you’re right – the best way to deal with a troll is simply click “Delete” and move on.
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I am seriously close to defriending a real-life troll. I just struggle with our mutual friends – but my personal troll does the same thing. ugh! Although, I don’t often back and forth – I do end up being angry. Thanks for the inspiration!
Look at the b.s. email and all that of the comment. I *know* it’s still hurtful- but realize that it’s from someone who can’t even identify themself, you know? Someone who is obviously totally unhappy with their lives and gets off by leaving anonymous comments on blogs.
I’m not sure if ignoring them is the right way anymore- probably the anonymous people who won’t ever even come back. But, for those who we actually know… well, I’m changing my mind sometimes.
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Trolls we know in real life are so much more hurtful than trolls we never see. Than those anonymous ones …. the ones we think are our friends hurt more. xo
Hmmm I like more inventive trolls myself. This one needs much more practice. Just hopefully he/she won’t feel the desire to practice on you or Alexander.
I agree w/everyone else. I know you know to simply hit delete and not let it get you down, the ignorance and outright cruelty of others. But it’s easier said than done. I forget who said it, but there’s a quote: “I’m taking the high road because the low road is way too crowded.”
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I love that quote – I might make it my motto “I’m taking the high road because the low road is way too crowded.” = love it.
Some people just get off on being hurtful and cruel, best be gone with them…DELETE!
Love ya!
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Jen – you are amazing. I will delete from now on. Delete. Delete. Delete.
I am so sorry you had to deal with a troll. I’ve had more than my fair share of experience with them. I like your attitude about it and I’m glad you were able to turn into a positive.
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I’m going to take it as a step into the big time.
right?
Trolls suck and are either 8 year old boys sneaking onto the computer or very sad pathetic people. Ignore, delete, ignore. Not worthy of your precious time.
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Ok. I love that you think they are 8 year old boys… ’cause that totally makes it better. At 8 you don’t realize the impact of words. Or pathetic people – yeah… my thoughts exactly.
Thanks for sharing the skating pics- they really made me smile. I especially like the “I’ll help you” pic. *awwwwww* Carson is *almost* steady enough on his feet now that I think someday he might learn, too. I love how Alexander is growing, too. It’s been a while since I’ve watched video of him and little-mister-almost-two is looking so big and sounding so vibrant!
Thanks Teresa – you are awesome, by the way. A total inspiration to me. If you don’t hear that enough… you should.
Ummm. Wow. I’d be mad too, but you are awesome! I love the pics of your adorable roller skating twins and Alexander’s gorgeous laugh……and I love Alex’s hair in the second video! Hugs!
His hair is out of control! It is so fine and wispy… but I love it.
Wow…excuse my language but, what a douche.
Also, another wow for taking a couple of 3 year olds roller skating. Brave lady! I would have wrapped them in bubble wrap, put pads on them and then in a sumo wrestling suit…
Joanna – You never have to excuse your language. They tighten the wheels to the kids sort of “walk” on skates.
We had a troll visit our blog once and it was while we were in China adopting our son. Left a most inappropriate and hurtful comment. I just don’t understand some people and how they can be soooo mean! Feel your pain. Love that you are home with your gang- praying your life gets easier b/c of the decision. Can’t wait to hear more about life in the trenches 24/7! We are going to have Leo evaluated with a vision therapists. We are slowly figuring out what all of his needs are.
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Ohh! I can’t wait to hear how you make out with your evals. We also see an opthamologist … which is more indepth than a regular eye doctor. He is great with Alexander and checking his vision. AMAZING. I love that you are loving on Leo and I’m so glad to have connected with you. Yes. Trolls do suck. And… this week has been awesome staying at home. So. Much. Easier.
WOW What a jerk!! They done deserve any other thought than that. On the other hand your kids skating are super adorable!
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Oh girl – why do you post blogs with one word? Don’t you know that it will drive me insane until I finish commenting and can FINALLY read it. Because my curiosity is going crazy now?!?!?! I SO cannot wait to see what DONE means!!!
I’m going to ignore the troll because it made my stomach turn. I am going to focus on sweet Alexander and Addison on those little roller skates. How darn adorable are they?! I could jump through the screen and squeeze hug the both of them. Two little skating twins!!
Also, Alexander’s little laugh…oh so precious!!
Much love to you, my friend. xoxo Keep your head up and your heart strong
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I know about the skating! They are still talking about it – which in 3 year old years is like remembering something from 1986 for us. When you swing by here and pick me up for BBC – you can squeeze hug both of them. And – I will show you how to tickle Alexander to get the laugh.
Your cuties skating make me smile “like peas and cheese.”
ps that’s a good thing…I am totally not a troll.
Um… you better not be a troll – because you are one of my favorite blogs to read! So – Ray fell like 3 times, but I’m not allowed to tell anyone that. HAHA! He should know better…. all things eventually find their way onto the blog.
In your own words: pray for them, because karma’s a bitch!
YUP. Exactly.
Your kids are so dang cute with those skates! And your happy guy adorable too!
Sorry someone like that came across your blog. I think it’s interesting that the majority of mean comments are anonymous. You’re awesome! I like your new plan!
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I love your blog. And I love your outlook on life. You are one of my best role models. I love your “lesson” for the day. So thanks for inspiring me to be Grumpily Grateful.
I love those photos! Your babies are by definition, adorable
Trolls are awful and I’m sorry someone even thought that, let alone wrote it. So wretched.
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Thanks Jodi! I know… I was going to just … let it go – but I couldn’t. I’m actually glad I posted it because – it was this amazing outpouring of love for my kids came from it. And that makes me smile
Hi, I just started reading your blog recently and the story of Andrew. My son is 3yrs old and has a genetic disoder, too, its 9p deletion also with a ring on chromosome 9. During my pregnancy, the same thing happened as you, Riley was measuring small (especially his head), and I was induced a week early. It took longer to get his diagnosis, we got it when he was about 1 1/2 yrs old, which during that time there was lots of testing, medical issues, and searching for what was causing all the issues, such as hypospadius, hypotonia, slow weight gain, lots of ear infections, respitory illnesses, sacrul dimpal, and I’m sure other things. It’s been quite a journey, and I can really relate to your story, and love reading your blog because we share similar stories. Sorry that someone wrote such a horrible, awful comment on your blog, people are idiots. Thanks for sharing your story and I always look forward to new posts! Emilie
I’m so glad you commented! I love meeting new people. It is amazing how similar the “symptoms” are between your Riley and my little guy. I’m going to do a post soon on some of our favorite equipment – I hope you come back (for others too) – but to read ours and comment with some of your favorite things. I’m so glad you found us!
I commented earlier – but I don’t think it went through. I’m thrilled you found our blog xo
Emilie – I wrote several comments – but I don’t think they went through. I just wanted to let you know that I loved your comment and can’t wait to get to know you better.
Hey… I think that by simply continuing to be happy, you won this round!
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Thanks! Me too! I’m so glad you stopped by… and I can’t wait to read “Clawing up a Monster’s esophagus”
Woohoo, I hope you do!
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Hi.
First time commenter here.
I understand the mamma bear transition.
Say what you want about me, I’ll easily win the games of wits and war with words. BUT- attack my family, especially my kids…..and watch me turn into the incredible hulk.
I do think it takes a bigger person to hit delete. It appears that you are that person.
Your babies are beautiful.
Thank you for sharing.
I’m so glad you commented… and – I love that you get my “protective” feeling of my family. Thanks for thinking so highly of me – and I look forward to getting to know you better!
Wow, I’m speechless. Completely shocked that someone would leave such a hateful comment about an innocent baby! Though, I don’t know why I’m shocked because some idiot kept leaving disgusting comments about Bella on my blog awhile back. The haters are out there and their sole purpose in life is to suck all the happiness out of ours.
You have a beautiful family, Kristen. And you are a wonderful person. Don’t let the haters steal your thunder.
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Helene – I know I’ve said this before… but – your blog is one of the ones I am TRULY thankful I found. You rock. Like -in a way that totally gets me – rock. xo
I love the Troll Doll image… seriously, only some crazy naked person with wild bushy hair has the time/energy/intiative to spread such cr@p. Kristen, you *must* be big time to attract such creatures. Keep it positive, my dear, that’s all you can do.
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